Relationship & Self Concept Coaching to help you stop chasing and start thriving
Self Concept Coach, creator of the viral 3-Day Attachment Detox, Spiraling to Secure, and founder of the Secure Self Collective.
I started coaching and sharing online many years ago, hoping to help just one person a day feel more powerful, more worthy, and less alone. Now, I reach thousands of people daily, but the heart of my work hasn’t changed: it’s still about you.
Everything I create, from my viral frameworks to my signature programs, is designed to help you heal your self concept, regulate your nervous system, and become the secure, chosen version of you who leads their own life, love, and legacy.
At SFC, we believe personal transformation is world-changing. When you feel safe in your body, clear in your values, and rooted in your worth, you don’t just manifest better relationships. You create a better world. 🌹
Your mental, emotional, and physical well-being come first, because without being able to create a sense of safety in your body, nothing else can stick!
When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, it’s nearly impossible to show up differently, no matter how much you “know better.” Inside this work, you’ll learn how to identify the patterns your body’s been holding onto (thought patterns, emotional habits, protective responses) and build the skills to gently create something new. Because when your body feels safe, your mind softens, your emotions stabilize, and everything else becomes so much easier to shift.
The version of you who feels secure, chosen, and at peace isn’t just a nice idea or a journal entry... you can become them!
This work is about rewriting the self concept that’s been keeping you stuck, so you stop chasing love, safety, and validation, and start naturally embodying the version of you who attracts it with ease. We go deep here. Together, we uncover the identity patterns, beliefs, and inner narratives you've been carrying (often without even realizing it) and we start to shift them at the root. Through coaching, new skills, routines, repetition, and aligned action, we help you stop living from outdated and unhelpful scripts and start becoming the version of you who actually matches the love, life, and peace you want to call in.
You don’t have to beg for breadcrumbs or settle for anxiety and confusion. You get to feel chosen, respected, and safe in love.
This work helps you step out of patterns like chasing, overgiving, spiraling, or performing, and into a secure, grounded version of you who knows how to hold their standards without fear of losing everything. Whether you're wanting to attract someone new, healing within an existing relationship, or letting go of someone who couldn't meet you, this is about you. Your self concept, your boundaries, your energy, your wholeness. We teach you how to detach without shutting down, communicate without over-explaining, and attract love that actually feels good to be in.
"...I truly feel like I'm not out of control anymore. Spiral is gone feeling more calm and again, the best feeling is just feeling back in control of my day to day. And I don't think I realized how not in control it was. Which is part of the revelation." -Clayton